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Is your lover a loser? by Susanne Brown
Is your lover a loser? by Susanne Brown 
Do you think your lover is a loser? Take our mega quiz and find out. This quiz contains 20 questions and will give very accurate results about your lover. You will be answering questions about how they treat you and the others around you.
There will also be questions about trust, behavior, their past and even reactions to breakups. Your relationship may be very healthy or could be downright dangerous. Answer the following questions as accurately as you can.
You will then be presented with an accurate synopsis of the state of your relationship and whether you are dating a loser or not. The lower your ranking, the better. We wish you the best of luck.
b) There was one incident, but nothing since
c) Only when my lover is really mad
d) It happens very often and it might even be getting worse
b) My lover wants to move faster than I do
c) My lover is moving too fast and is already mentioning a long-term commitment
d) My lover wanted to get married within four weeks
b) I have only seen it happen once or twice
c) It has happened quite a few times
d) It seems to happen constantly and is getting worse
b) My lover has done it a few times, but realized it was a mistake and apologized
c) My lover does it fairly often
d) My lover does it constantly and it has been getting more harsh and more frequent
b) My lover seems okay with them, but doesn't always come along when I visit them
c) My lover often tries to discourage me from seeing them, but allows me to see them most of the time
d) My lover is totally against me seeing them and constantly tells me they are a bad influence on me
b) There have been one or two times when my lover wasn't very nice to me, but my lover is nice to me almost all of the time
c) My lover's treatment of me does vary somewhat, but is consistent most of the time
d) My lover is totally unpredictable day to day, almost like Jekyll and Hyde
b) Sometimes my lover might try to blame someone else
c) My lover often blames someone else, including me
d) My lover never takes blame, but instead blames me or some other person
b) My lover called or visited me a few days later and asked to have a talk
c) My lover called me a few times a day, contacted a close friend or relative and sent me flowers
d) My lover called every five minutes, offered to marry me, threatened suicide and contacted of all my friends and relatives to talk me into getting back together
b) My lover is okay with pretty much everything, but sometimes complains when I do my activity too much
c) My lover often gets upset if I spend too much time with my activity
d) My lover totally discourages me from doing anything, or comes with me and makes me miserable the whole time
b) My lover might ask questions if I am really late or with a friend of the opposite sex
c) My lover asks questions quite a lot, oftentimes when there is no reason to
d) My lover is constantly drilling me, has been known to follow me and keeps track of everything I do
b) It has happened once or twice but my lover apologized
c) My lover has done it several times when upset
d) My lover does it constantly to the point where I am afraid to say anything in public
b) My lover may have been dissatisfied once or twice
c) My lover can feel dissatisfied quite often and may complain
d) My lover is never satisfied and everything I do seems to be wrong
b) My lover did do that once, but realized the mistake right away
c) When angry, my lover does have a tendency to do that
d) My lover feels like that all the time and makes that fact very clear to me
b) Other than a few minor issues they are okay with my lover
c) They feel my lover has several problems, but tolerate it
d) They are seriously worried about me, dread the thought of us being together and are not even allowed to visit me
b) My lover has a few bad memories that have been brought up, but most are positive
c) My lover seems to have a lot of bad memories, some which may contain some violence
d) Everything my lover brings up involves violence, aggression, past unfair treatment and how my lover won't take anything from anybody
b) If really upset, my lover may briefly mistreat others of the opposite sex
c) My lover often treats others of the opposite sex rather poorly, such as in a restaurant
d) My lover treats others of the opposite sex extremely poorly all the time
b) They say a few negative things about my lover, but mostly positive
c) They have quite a few negative things to say about my lover
d) There are two groups, with one group saying my lover is great, while the other group says my lover is serious trouble
b) I feel somewhat comfortable and can talk about most subjects
c) I feel I have to be somewhat careful around my lover including conversation
d) I feel like I am walking on eggshells and feel afraid to talk about almost anything
b) Every once in a while my lover won't respect other people's feelings and opinions
c) My lover will often disrespect other people's feelings and opinions
d) My lover never cares about other people's feelings, dismisses their opinions and even gets angry when criticized
b) There have been some changes in my behavior, but mostly positive
c) I have to defend myself from time to time, but most of the time it is okay
d) I have to always cover my tracks, avoid certain places and people and be careful with everything I do and say
Your results will appear here.
1. Has your lover ever purposely caused you physical harm?
a) Are you kidding? My lover would never do thatb) There was one incident, but nothing since
c) Only when my lover is really mad
d) It happens very often and it might even be getting worse
Answer:
2. How fast is your lover moving in the relationship?
a) My lover is moving at the same pace as me, which is somewhat slowb) My lover wants to move faster than I do
c) My lover is moving too fast and is already mentioning a long-term commitment
d) My lover wanted to get married within four weeks
Answer:
3. How often does your lover lose his or her temper?
a) I have never seen it happenb) I have only seen it happen once or twice
c) It has happened quite a few times
d) It seems to happen constantly and is getting worse
Answer:
4. How often does your lover correct or insult you?
a) My lover would never do that to meb) My lover has done it a few times, but realized it was a mistake and apologized
c) My lover does it fairly often
d) My lover does it constantly and it has been getting more harsh and more frequent
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5. How does your lover deal with your friends and family?
a) My lover is okay with them and doesn't mind if we go together to see them or with just me aloneb) My lover seems okay with them, but doesn't always come along when I visit them
c) My lover often tries to discourage me from seeing them, but allows me to see them most of the time
d) My lover is totally against me seeing them and constantly tells me they are a bad influence on me
Answer:
6. How much does your lover's treatment of you vary?
a) My lover treats me pretty much the same way all the time, which is rather nicelyb) There have been one or two times when my lover wasn't very nice to me, but my lover is nice to me almost all of the time
c) My lover's treatment of me does vary somewhat, but is consistent most of the time
d) My lover is totally unpredictable day to day, almost like Jekyll and Hyde
Answer:
7. How often does your lover admit fault for behaving incorrectly?
a) My lover realizes it right away, admits guilt and apologizesb) Sometimes my lover might try to blame someone else
c) My lover often blames someone else, including me
d) My lover never takes blame, but instead blames me or some other person
Answer:
8. Which most closely resembles how your lover react during your last break up?
a) We have never had a break upb) My lover called or visited me a few days later and asked to have a talk
c) My lover called me a few times a day, contacted a close friend or relative and sent me flowers
d) My lover called every five minutes, offered to marry me, threatened suicide and contacted of all my friends and relatives to talk me into getting back together
Answer:
9. How does your lover deal with your outside activities and hobbies?
a) My lover gladly encourages me to do my activities and often participates when possibleb) My lover is okay with pretty much everything, but sometimes complains when I do my activity too much
c) My lover often gets upset if I spend too much time with my activity
d) My lover totally discourages me from doing anything, or comes with me and makes me miserable the whole time
Answer:
10. How often does your lover check up on you?
a) My lover trusts me and never checks up on meb) My lover might ask questions if I am really late or with a friend of the opposite sex
c) My lover asks questions quite a lot, oftentimes when there is no reason to
d) My lover is constantly drilling me, has been known to follow me and keeps track of everything I do
Answer:
11. How often does your lover embarrass or criticize you in public?
a) My lover would never do such a thingb) It has happened once or twice but my lover apologized
c) My lover has done it several times when upset
d) My lover does it constantly to the point where I am afraid to say anything in public
Answer:
12. Does your lover feel satisfied with you?
a) Yes, my lover is always satisfied with meb) My lover may have been dissatisfied once or twice
c) My lover can feel dissatisfied quite often and may complain
d) My lover is never satisfied and everything I do seems to be wrong
Answer:
13. How often does your lover feel entitled to punish someone including you?
a) My lover never feels that wayb) My lover did do that once, but realized the mistake right away
c) When angry, my lover does have a tendency to do that
d) My lover feels like that all the time and makes that fact very clear to me
Answer:
14. What do your friends and family think of your lover?
a) They think my lover is very kind and treats me wellb) Other than a few minor issues they are okay with my lover
c) They feel my lover has several problems, but tolerate it
d) They are seriously worried about me, dread the thought of us being together and are not even allowed to visit me
Answer:
15. How does your lover talk about his or her past?
a) My lover often tells of fond memories with a little humor sprinkled inb) My lover has a few bad memories that have been brought up, but most are positive
c) My lover seems to have a lot of bad memories, some which may contain some violence
d) Everything my lover brings up involves violence, aggression, past unfair treatment and how my lover won't take anything from anybody
Answer:
16. Other than you, how does your lover treat others of the opposite sex?
a) My lover treats others of the opposite sex very favorably, similar to how I am treatedb) If really upset, my lover may briefly mistreat others of the opposite sex
c) My lover often treats others of the opposite sex rather poorly, such as in a restaurant
d) My lover treats others of the opposite sex extremely poorly all the time
Answer:
17. What do your lover's friends say about him or her?
a) They say that they like my lover and that my lover is a great personb) They say a few negative things about my lover, but mostly positive
c) They have quite a few negative things to say about my lover
d) There are two groups, with one group saying my lover is great, while the other group says my lover is serious trouble
Answer:
18. Which best describes how you feel around your lover?
a) I feel comfortable and can talk about anythingb) I feel somewhat comfortable and can talk about most subjects
c) I feel I have to be somewhat careful around my lover including conversation
d) I feel like I am walking on eggshells and feel afraid to talk about almost anything
Answer:
19. How does your lover accept the feelings and opinions of others?
a) My lover respects other people's feelings and opinionsb) Every once in a while my lover won't respect other people's feelings and opinions
c) My lover will often disrespect other people's feelings and opinions
d) My lover never cares about other people's feelings, dismisses their opinions and even gets angry when criticized
Answer:
20. How has your lover affected your behavior?
a) My lover has had a positive effect on me and I behave pretty much the sameb) There have been some changes in my behavior, but mostly positive
c) I have to defend myself from time to time, but most of the time it is okay
d) I have to always cover my tracks, avoid certain places and people and be careful with everything I do and say